Maureen Hanson, 33 years old
New relationships are fragile and rushing through the formative early stages can lead to a promising new romance going pear shaped very quickly. The two can feel very similar in the early stages, resulting in a single minded obsession with the object of your desire. The main difference between them is that lust is often fleeting and can move from one person to another very quickly. It is like a bright firework that soon burns out. If you mistake it for love you may feel hurt and disappointed if it ends quickly, or even humiliated and ashamed of your behaviour if you acted out of character. Some people rush into a new relationship in an attempt to get over an old one. If you come across as needy or too dependent, you could dont rush dating even the most willing suitor running in the opposite direction. Often very early professions of love reveal a desperate need to be loved in the other person.
Dont rush dating jump into something too soon and ended up shattered again? Double whammy. Now you have more pain to deal with- because you rushed it. Do not rush it.
My ex really did a number on me. I rushed into love and I thought it would solve all my problems. The faster you fall, the harder you land. If taking things slow can help lower the risk of a painful breakup then slow is my new favorite speed. It goes against my nature to not wear my heart on my sleeve but until I know I can trust you, I have to follow my head, not my heart. I take love seriously.
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Our generation -- hell, probably every generation -- puts too much emphasis on sex. I understand sex is a big part of any successful relationship. Falling in love -- for some of us -- is too easy. We are so hellbent on finding love that we start labeling anything that closely resembles dont rush dating as love itself. This for the good of the relationship, for your future together, and for your own sanity.
Things never to rush: Cooking eggs. Baking cakes. And, of course, relationships. You cannot, I repeat, cannot I really don't think I could stress this too dont rush dating rush things in a relationship. You can't go from zero to 60 without someone getting hurt and possibly whiplash. I know plenty of us are tempted, because all of the best feelings arise when you first get involved with someoneand it's hard to resist jumping in full throttlebut if you do, there's a good chance you'll wind up burned — and it's even possible that you'll burn the whole relationship to the ground.
The Rule depends on your age and personal feelings. If you're eighteen and a virgin, you will want to wait until you are in a committed relationship. If you're thirty-nine, waiting a month or two can be fine. Of course, if you feel strongly against premarital sex, you should wait until you're married. If he loves you, he'll respect whatever decision you make.